Yep, I’m still pregnant! Happy Due Date, sweet little baby. We’re very excited to meet you, but take your time and come out whenever you’re ready to meet us.
Today I’m 40 weeks pregnant, a.k.a. 9 months pregnant! We made it all the way to the end. I was originally scheduled for a membrane sweep today, which was the obstetrician’s idea. During my last appointment with her, she said that since my pregnancy had been going so well and there had been no problems or complications, I was allowed to have a membrane sweep on my due date and a week after my due date. I wasn’t sure why she was so smiling so widely when she told me this, because the whole idea just made me feel uncomfortable. My body and baby have been working together excellently for 40 weeks now, they did not need any instruction of intervention to get where we are today. Why would this be any different when it comes to labor? When baby is ready to come meet us, I’m sure he and my body know what to do. What’s the haste? There’s no need to hurry baby up. He’s not even late yet, this is his actual due date.
I’m not anxious for him to be born as soon as possible, at all. I’ve been pretty relaxed about waiting for him to be ready. I want him to be born naturally, healthily, on his terms, and with as little intervention as possible. The only reason I found myself slightly wanting him to come before his due date was to actually avoid that membrane sweep. It made me so uncomfortable, you may remember from my birth plan that I do NOT want any interventions to speed labor up. Besides membrane sweeps don’t work anyways when your body and baby aren’t ready yet. So, really what’s the point? Yes, I’m excited to meet baby, but I’m patient. Also, like all interventions, a membrane sweep can lead to complications, which can lead to more serious interventions and more serious complications. Yes, it’s a less invasive and a less dangerous intervention than medicinal induction, but I’m not in my 42nd week yet. When I get there, I will consider the topic of a membrane sweep again. I’m really eager not to get caught in that cascade of interventions, especially since there’s absolutely no medical reason for me to get started down that road.
So when a midwife called me this morning to arrange a home visit for the sweep, I declined. I was pleasantly surprised to hear that she completely agreed, and that she had planned a little speech to talk me out of it before administering the sweep. Especially, since it’s my first baby (they’re often overdue) and today is only his due date. I’m so glad my main carers in pregnancy are midwives and not obstetricians. Midwives deal with natural births and obstetricians deal with the medical emergencies in birth. Of course, it’s good to have them around in the hospital when things do go wrong during labor. But they seem to need a lot of reminding that many babies are also born without any intervention or pain relief. At least my obstetrician does. The obstetrician never believed me when I told her this was the norm in my country and she always treated me like I was crazy for wanting the same. My mom was actually with me during my last appointment and assured her that yes indeed she had given birth naturally to 3 babies without pain relief, including one breech baby. You should have seen the face of the obstetrician: total incredulity. Then she turned to me, smiled and told me that I needn’t worry since we do have all kinds of pain relief here in England. She completely missed the point, again…
When baby is ready to come, we’re ready for him. I’m still waiting for a few replacement items for the nursery, but if he decides to arrive today we have all we need for now. There’s really nothing left to worry about so I’ve been pretty relaxed waiting for labor to start over the last week. Except two days ago, when Buxton had a brief water pressure problem due to a burst water main. So I was worried about going into labor when we had no running water or flushing toilets (Yasu even had to go to the gym to brush his teeth before going to work) but thankfully that was resolved rather quickly. I do still have a hard time moving around, but I know I’ll regain that ability after baby comes out, so I just take it as easy as possible. I also try to enjoy all his movements inside my belly to the fullest of my ability now he’s still inside, I’m sure I’m going to miss that a whole lot when he’s out.
I spend my time waiting for this little one making decorations for his nursery. I’ve already made him a name banner, and I’m still working on felt animals for his baby mobile. Stitching things by hand takes forever, so I know I won’t finish before he’s here, but that’s fine, it gives me something fun to do in the meantime. I love watching true crime shows when I’m sewing, to me those shows are interesting and actually relaxing. But my hypnobirthing book and midwife advised watching funny movies, while waiting for and especially during the first phase of labor, to keep stress levels at a minimum and increase my levels of oxytocin, so yesterday I was watching a romantic comedy while sewing instead of my regular crime shows. Problem was that the movie’s happy ending included the birth of a little boy. It had me bawling my eyes out for at least 15 minutes. I actually had to watch a true crime show about a murderous husband, just to calm me down. Those romantic comedies are way too upsetting in my condition. Pffff hormones.